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Should you indulge his whims?
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- The causes of the bad appetite
- The anorexia is the disease both long and serious, and to avoid it or slow down at the early stage of the development, the parents shall control their kids closely.
- Do not insist upon the fact that he absolutely ate, move the plate away from him. He will eat everything indeed during the supper.
- If the kid actively rejects any dishes, don ’ t force him to eat, and take, so to speak, a time-out. After some time, the baby likely to return to the old preferences.
- In the use of the dolls to form the persistent interest in kid to the meal, as in everything, you should know the measure.
- When the child is sick and cannot explain what hurts him, he begins to cry from the pain, capricious, refuses to eat, sleeps restlessly.
- Sometimes the baby , on the contrary, is capricious because he wants to sleep, but cannot sleep. Pamper him, caress him, make a relaxing massage. Stay with him and try to set the sleep ing to him.
- Do not load the baby with what he is not interested. Try to find out his preferences and choose the appropriate occupation. Give him the right to choose, the right to decide for himself what to do.
- What age do children’s fears arise at and what is the baby afraid?
- The fears, where did they come from?
- You must be able to distinguish between the nightmares and the night terrors, because they have the different causes.
- The night terrors occur in many children, but in healthy ones they occur infrequently. If the fears continue for many nights in a row – this is an excuse to visit a doctor.
- The program for the neutralization of children’s fears
- If the baby does not work, help him. And remember the main fear that torments the child, and use it in the story being composed.
- The reaction on the parental prohibition
- Should you indulge his whims?
- During the moods and the tantrums the behavior of the parents should be based on three principles: try to understand, indicate the limits of the acceptable behavior and show compassion.
- How to distract the child from the whims
- Remember even the best game should not be prolonged, only then it will interest and cheer the child.
- How to respond to the disobedience
- About the physical punishment
- Do not punish the child in a hurry, first try to “cool down”, calm down, analyze the depth of the action, choosing an adequate punishment.
- The punishment is fair and effective
- If the child does not get along with his brother or his sister
- The eldest child in the family
- The position of the average child in the family
- One of the most effective methods of influencing the child is the personal example of the parents. As you will behave, so your children will treat each other.
- The communication with the adults and the contacts with the peers should constantly alternate, because the children are united not only with the same age, but also with the common interests.
- No less effective are psychological trainings that are presented to the baby in the form of the game. In the game, the child is liberated; it is exactly in it he learns the most necessary easily.
- If it is difficult for the child to make the friends
- Do not worry if the child inserts the wrong word that you expected. This can make the game even more interesting and fun, especially if the guys come up with several answers.
- Is it necessary the child to go to the kindergarten
- Why does not the child want to go to the kindergarten.
- The children can bear the dislike to the certain dishes for the kindergarten generally. The children are not able to explain why this has happened.
- The adults, maybe, should talk to the caregiver about the tablemate of the baby. The cause can be in fact that they speak something offended for your child.
In order to grow up and raise a child, the parents often have to sacrifice their personal affairs, the work, and the finances. But you should distinguish which the sacrifices are necessary and which are harmful, because one of the problems of “the home pedagogy” in the fact that the parents make the unnecessary sacrifices. Trying to give a treat to the child that is clearly intended only for him, buy an expensive toy, another new thing, you pamper him and give him a reason to feel “only and unique”. And this can lead to the development of the selfishness. If the child is used to being the center of the attention from an early age, not having anything to refuse, this gradually becomes the norm for him. He has not already understood or does not want to realize that the fulfillment of his desires infringes on the interests of other people and he is still capricious and insists on his own, without regard to anyone.
Of course, in the middle-income families (and especially in the low-income families), all the best is given to the children, because it is not possible to provide for all the family members equally. But it is worth doing it so that the child does not notice that he is given any preference. Put the most delicious pieces insensibly to him; buy the new clothes, not focusing on this attention (= you must not tell that I have bought the new blouse because you are best for me. You would better say that today you got a good grade in English).
In order for the child not to grow up greedy, from a very young age it is necessary to teach him to share the toys with his friends, to enjoy their success, to tell not only about himself, but also about them. Educate him so that he is not selfish.
If your baby is the only child, this is harder to do. He often becomes spoiled, getting used to being the center of the attention from the cradle. And if he is also the only grandchild of the grandparents, the danger of raising him selfish and capricious increases. As a rule, such the child develops in the hothouse conditions. The adults deprive him of the independence, and he grows up unfit for the life. And this all begins in general innocently, with such the conversations: “Who do we love more than anyone else in the world? Of course, Vanechka (Kolenka, Dimochka, etc.)! Who is the best? Of course, he is!” Several years pass, and it turns out that for Vanya the most beloved and dear only he is.
In an atmosphere of the excessive guardianship, the only children get used to taking their parents’ care for granted. They begin to feel the strength in their weakness that is such the child supervises the adults, abuse the attention of their parents and make the excessive demands on them, becoming “the little despots”. They cannot be refused anything, otherwise they fall into hysterics.
All this can be avoided if you build a reasonable system of the education.
First, the parents should take into account that the love should be expressed not only in the tenderness and the affection, but also in the demands.
Demanding is a mandatory element of the proper education.
The understanding that in the life there is not only “I want” and “I do not want”, but also, “I must”, should be instilled in the baby from the earliest years. He should be guided not only by his own desires, but also by the necessity of one or the other for other family members. If the child is trained to fulfill the reasonable requirements imposed on him from the childhood, he will quickly get used to the conditions of the kindergarten, to the study at school and then he will grow strong-willed, organized and disciplined.
When the children’s “give” and “want” begin to go beyond the limits of the reason, they must face your “no”, “cannot”, “do not allow”, and the success of your entire system of the education will depend on these first forbidding words.
I advise you to express your demands in a persistent but calm and pleasant way. If you only yell at the child and constantly pull him back with the words: “Do not dare!” “Do not run!” “Do not touch it!” – nothing good will come of it. The shouts only unnerve and irritate the baby, but they do not teach him anything.
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