No less effective are psychological trainings that are presented to the baby in the form of the game. In the game, the child is liberated; it is exactly in it he learns the most necessary easily.

 

Every child probably has a favourite toy is a doll, robot, plush Bunny or a bear. Use it as the main character of the game. Talk to your child on behalf of this toy. Invite your child “to get to know” the toy, introduce it to your friends, take it to the barber, to the store, to the market, to a doctor’s appointment. First, choose the situations where you will have to play the leading role and then offer the main role to the child. This game will prepare the baby to behave in the various life circumstances. Having got used to the free communication in the game, the child will behave naturally in everyday life.

The collective games will help him overcome the isolation.

 

“The acquaintance”

 

Several people sit in a circle and take turns introducing themselves, saying a sentence or two about themselves. And each subsequent participant of the game, before telling about himself, repeats what the previous ones said. It will look something like this:

- My name is Olya, I love to invent the beautiful dresses for the dolls and draw them.

- Olya likes to invent the beautiful dresses for the dolls and draw them. And my name is Marina, I love to sing.

- Olya likes to draw the beautiful dresses, Marina likes to sing. And my name is Den, I love to design.

And so on.

This game promotes the development of children’s communication skills, as well as the development of the speech and the memory.

One of the reasons for the child’s isolation can be his physical disabilities (for example, the poor eyesight, in which you have to wear the glasses, the fullness or the thinness, stuttering, etc.). In such the cases, you cannot do without the special classes or visits to the doctor. But you can help your child to look at his shortcomings more easily, not fixate on them, and treat them with the humor. In the life of the children wait not only the pleasant acquaintances. Therefore, I advise you to teach every child to treat ironically himself. The various games can help you do this. Tell the funny stories about yourself or other family members to your child; ask your child to come up with the funny story about himself.

 

Getting used to the fact that everyone (even the mother and the father) can be in a funny position, the child will not be afraid of an ironic attitude from others, because it is possible that he can become the object of ridicule or the cause of unrestrained fun at any time.

 

The sense of the humor is a great helper in the difficult situations and sometimes the only way to get out of the situation with the dignity that is a well-spoken word or a joke in the response to an offensive nickname, an ironic attitude to yourself and the mocker can defuse the situation. The child with the physical disabilities, a cheerful disposition will help compensate these shortcomings and allow him to be always in the center of the attention of his peers, because people of any age, and the children especially, tend to be drawn to cheerful, good-natured people who differ in the special responsiveness.

At the same time, from an early age, teach your child to see not only the shortcomings that others will notice and remind about them at every opportunity, but also his advantages. Offer to play the game “Who am I?”, “What is good about me and what is bad?” in which not only the children, but also the adults should take part. The point of these games is not to be shy, openly call what you think is attractive in you, and what spoils (the mother, for example, says: “I have a long nose, but beautiful silky hair, and I also bake very delicious pies”; the father: “I am very thin, but I can fix any electrical appliance”).

If the child is not sociable enough, closed because of the external unattractiveness, make a special emphasis on his the internal advantages. This will help the child not to underestimate his own self-esteem (“I am overweight a little, but everyone has fun with me”, “my ears stick out, but I run faster than everyone else”, “I wear the glasses, but I guess the riddles better than everyone else”).

It is gradually bring the child to the fact that the communication with people is not dangerous for him. Help him to make the contact with others when you are walking in the park, waiting a bus at the station, or riding the train... First let this will be the neighbours or people who occasionally visit you, then completely the strangers. The reason for contacting them is completely unimportant that is you can find out from a passer-by what time it is, how to get to a bus stop or a store. It is gradually complicating the task that is let the child ask the stranger something funny, for example, if he saw a red cat nearby. You can turn to a passer-by with some request that is, for example, hold the ball while the baby ties the string and get a beautiful autumn leaf from a branch. You can give a gift to your aunt or your uncle that is an unusual stone, a beautiful shell and be happy with it...

 

Of course, “the object” for the appeal should be chosen by the adult, that is, you, the parents, so that the rude response of an angry passerby does not discourage the child’s desire to communicate forever.

 

It is not easy to study another person, even your own child. It is even more difficult to raise it correctly, because it will take a lot of the patience and the effort. But we are sure that you will experience a great sense of the joy on that day when you see the boundless gratitude in the eyes of the child for giving a new world to him, which is not so terrible as it seemed until recently. This world will respond to the kindness and the responsiveness that you have brought up in your child, and will give a lot of the happy moments for him, it is only necessary to stretch out your hands to meet him.

Chapter 8