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UNIT 1 Words and Phrases Widely Used in Conversations There is a number of words and phrases in English which are widely used for governing conversation. They usually do not contain any information; they just show the speaker’s attitude and the relationship to the other person. These words are used by the British not as a sign of politeness but also in normal situations: “Thank you.” “Sorry.” ‘Excuse me …” “I’m afraid …” “Thanks.” “That’s all right.” “Oh!” “Really?” “Please.” “Certainly.” In formal situations you should use “Thank you very much”. “Thanks” and “Thanks a lot” are said to a friend and people you know well. In Britain we can hear two other even shorter words which are used in the same way: “Ta”(often used by children and in combinations like “Ta, love” by shopkeepers and so on) and “Kyou” (mostly used by people who have to say “Thank you” time and time again every day in their jobs, e.g. bus conductors, ticket collectors and so on). If someone does something important for you may add “That is/was kind of you” and stress on “was” or “is”. “Sorry!” is used after you have slightly inconvenienced somebody. If you really regret something, then you should use a stronger form “I’m terribly sorry”. Often if somebody says “Oh, sorry!” you reply “Oh, sorry!” (for example, if two people run into each other). “Sorry?” is used to ask a person to repeat what they said. It can be Used: 1) because you didn’t hear them; 2) because you didn’t understand UNIT 2 How to Start a Conversation
Read the text and do exercises given after it. How many times have you found yourself in a situation where you wanted to start a conversation but couldn’t think of anything to say. So, for many people, starting a conversation with a stranger is an intimidating task. But for you, after reading this article, it will be a breeze. 13
A usual way of beginning a conversation with a strangers is to discuss the weather. Foreigners are often amused that the British spend so much time talking about the weather. The reason for this is not simply that the weather in Britain is interesting and variable, but the British are reluctant to speak about personal matters with people, who are not friends. So when they meet they nearly always make some comments about the weather to be sociable. Often strangers talk about the weather in bus queues or in shops. You should always agree with the person if he/she makes a comment about the weather. So, mentioning the weather can be a useful and inoffensive way of starting a conversation with a stranger. Phrases that can be used when speaking about the weather: Good weather (opening remarks): “(Very) nice, isn’t it?” “Nice and warm (sunny), isn’t it?” “Quite mild, isn’t it?” Lovely day, isn’t it?” “Beautiful, isn’t it?” Possible replies: “Yes, beautiful. And they say it’s going to stay warm for the next couple of days.” “Yes, very nice. We could do with some nice weather for a change.” “Yes, wonderful. It’s about time we had some sun.” “Yes, lovely. Let’s hope it keeps like this.” “Yes, marvelous. Makes a change from all the rain we’ve had lately.” Bad weather (opening remarks):”A bit cold (windy), isn’t it?” “Rather wet, isn’t it?” “Very cloudy, isn’t it?” “ Shocking day, isn’t it?” “ Terrible weather, isn’t it?” “Not very promising, is it?” “ Looks like rain, doesn’t it?” “Shocking day/Terrible weather today, isn’t it?” “Not very nice/promising, isn’t it?” “Looks like rain, doesn’t it.” Possible replies: ”Yes, horrible. And they say it’s going to stay like this until the week-end.” “Yes, terrible. Good for the garden, though.” “Yes, awful (shocking). I’ll be glad when the summer comes.” “No, terrible. It’s about time we had some sun.” “Yes, it does. No sign of it changing.” 14
The best beginning for the conversation is “Hi”. The second step is to introduce yourself, “Hi, I am Jim.” Then it goes depending on circumstances. The three most popular and foolproof conversation-starters are: - Make a comment about the surroundings; - Enquire about something unusual in their appearance; - Ask for a comment from a woman’s/man’s point of view. Making a comment about the surroundings: This is the safest and universal conversation-starter. Wherever you are, something is always happening around you. Even when there is nothing happening, you can make a comment about that. Use a bit of humour in your comment and most of the time you will get a favourable answer. For example: “Hi, what a chilly (when it’s really hot)/ hot (when it’s really chilly) day today. I see you are also shivering/sweating. By the way, my name is Jim. What is your name?” “Hi, you know, you look pretty with these awesome roses as the backdrop. By the way, my name is Jim. What is your name?” “ Hey, this queue doesn’t seem to be moving, does it? Since we are going to spend the next few hours here together, I guess I should introduce myself. I am Jim. What is your name?” Enquiring About Something unusual in Their Appearance: This requires some skill but after a while you will be able to pick up something in an instant. It can be a tattoo, a piece of jewelry, a handbag, or even an unusual color. People don’t buy things at random. They buy them and wear them because they mean something to them. They have some pleasant emotion attached to it. If you mention this thing, you can tap in this pleasant emotion and they will consider your advances more favorably. For example: “Hi! I could not help but noticed this interesting ring. It isn’t an engagement ring, is it? If it is, I will have to end my life in a monastery. And by the way, my name is Jim.” 15
“Hi, I was looking at your earrings; they are exactly what I was looking for, as a present for my sister. Where did you get them? And by the way, my name is Jim.” Asking For a Comment From a Woman’s/man’s point of view: For some mysterious reason, we just love rendering our opinion as a woman/man. This is such a successful conversation-starter; you can use it anywhere, on anyone. Even 90-year-old grannies will be happy to answer your enquiries. For example: “Hi! I am Jim. My friend and I were talking about what women value the most in men that date and could not agree. Could you please help us out with a woman’s opinion.” It doesn’t matter what you are asking about. The point is, we all understand that men and women think differently and we appreciate a thoughtful stranger who makes an effort to learn from the source. Men and women alike generally respond very positively to a friendly stranger. A conversation often depends on questions. The person who asks questions in a conversation usually controls it. Personal questions should be expressed tactfully, otherwise you may appear to be rude. When asking questions of this kind the British generally use: ”Excuse me for asking.” “Excuse me asking/my asking.” Other expressions are: “I wonder if you could tell me your address?” “Excuse me, do you happen to know how often buses run here?” “Would you mind telling me about the structure of the University?” “I hope you don’t mind my asking, but I’d like to know more about your research.” English-speaking people do not usually ask or give exact information about their age. It is usual to say that “someone is in his/her early twenties/thirties, etc.” 18
To make a general enquiry about somebody’s job the British use: “What do you do? What do you do for a living?” The British never say: “What’s your profession/work?” Here’re some useful phrases for describing somebody’s job in more details: “He’s/I’m in advertising/banking, etc.” “He’s/I’m responsible for recruiting the staff.” “He’s/I’m an English lecturer at Moscow University.” “I/ He deal/deals with the finance.” “I’m/He’s qualified as a program designer.” In order to get more information you can use the following techniques: “Can you tell me a bit more about the history of your company?” “Sorry, but I’d like to know some more about your trip to Britain.” “Sorry, that’s not quite what I meant.” “What I really wanted to know was when exactly you’d be back.” “Sorry, I don’t quite understand.” If you want to get some explanations during the conversation you can do it like that: “What do you mean?” “What exactly do you mean?” “Can you explain it in more detail, please? If you want to interrupt when another person is speaking, you should do it politely: “Excuse me, can I interrupt you for a moment?” “Sorry to interrupt but I’ve got a question for you.” “I’d just like to say that my friend has got a promotion.” “By the way (to change the subject) I’ve decided to give up teaching.” “That reminds me of the meeting we had last time.” “Hold on, please.” “Just a moment, please.” If you want to prevent interruptions and make sure you continue to hold the floor, you can use the following techniques: 1. “There are two points I’d like to make.” You can’t be easily interrupted until you have made them both. 2. You may also pause in the middle of a sentence. In this case you can’t be easily interrupted until you’ve completed your sentence. You may probably want to hear other people’s views and make sure everyone gets a chance to speak in a conversation. The following phrases may 19
be helpful: Don’t you agree, Jane, that English is a beautiful language?” “What do you think, Nick, about Spanish painting?” “I expect you will agree with me when I say that we can master English only if we study much.” “ I don’t know what Mary thinks but I’m sure she knows more about the problem than I do.” Sometimes people speak indistinctly, so you may need to ask them to repeat what they have said. Here’re the most common ways: ”Sorry, could you say that again, (please)?” “Sorry, could you repeat that?” “Sorry, would you mind repeating that.” “Sorry, I didn’t hear what you said.” “Sorry, I didn’t (quite) catch what you said. When you are at a loss for words, the following sentences may be helpful: “I can’t think of the right word, but you know what I mean.” “A sort of thing/food, etc. you know.” “You know the sort/kind of thing I mean.” “I don’t quite know what you call it.” “One of those things, you know.” “I can’t remember what it’s called.” Possible answers may be: “Yes, I know what you mean.” “No, I’m afraid I don’t remember what you mean.” “You mean your business trip?” “Are you thinking of your colleagues?” British people usually use tags to make sure their listeners are keeping up with them. Another good way to check if you are properly understood is to use different little phrases as: “…if you see what I mean” “I don’t know if you can see that…” “And you know what I said?” “Can you guess what I did/said, etc?” “See what I mean, etc.” In more formal situations you might say: “Do you follow me?” “ Are you with me on that?” “All right so far?” “Is everything clear?” “Got that?” The importance of these little phrases cannot be overemphasized. In fact they ask for a tacit agreement from listeners and seek their encouragement or approval to continue a conversation. And what is more important they make speakers sound less abrupt and bring listeners into the talk. On the other hand listeners are also expected either to encourage 20
speakers or merely to show they are listening to be polite. Facial expressions, gestures and so on are very important indicators of attention and interest. So are certain words and intonation that can be used in uttering them. Here are some useful words you might use to show you are involved and share the speaker’s feelings: “Ah. Yes. Gosh. Sure. Yeah. Wow. Oh. Really? Lovely. Mmm…right. Fancy that! I know. Fine. Well. I see. OK. Exactly so. These brief utterances point to the level of agreement and comprehension as well as reveal the listener’s emotional involvement. At the same time you should not put too many of these utterances in, because in this case the expression may be one of overbearing pugnacity or embarrassing friendliness. If you need to delay answering a question while you think for a moment or check on your facts you may use some delaying expressions: “Well, let me see …” “Oh, let me think for a moment.” “I’m not sure, I’ll just have to find it out.” “That’s a very interesting question.” “That’s a difficult question to answer.” “It’s difficult to say.” “Let me put it this way.” “What do you mean?” These delaying expressions give people time to think about their replies. If you want to avoid answering questions altogether you may use expressions like these: “I’m not really sure.” “I can’t tell you off-hand, I’m afraid.” “I’m terribly sorry, I really don’t know.” “I’ve no idea, I’m afraid.” “I can’t answer that one, but I’ll tell you where you can find it out.” “I’d rather not answer that one, if you don’t mind.” If you don’t want to discuss something, use the following phrases: “Well, I’d rather leave individuals out of this.” “Well, I’d rather not discuss it at the moment.” Well, I’d rather not talk about it if you don’t mind.” “Well, I’d rather wait till I know more about it before I say.” “Well, I’d rather wait before I commit myself.” 21
If the British want to terminate a conversation generally end a conversation with people or a person they know by an excuse and saying something nice after the topics of common interest have been discussed, e.g. “ Excuse me, I’m afraid I have to be going now. It was really a pleasure to talk to you.” Some other ways may be: summing up a conversation by using “OK”,”Well”, etc. or/and making arrangements to speak to the person at a later time. In a business conversation where there is a specific point to be discussed the British come to the point quickly. In this case the conversation winds down after the point has been discussed and an excuse is not necessary.
EXERCISES I. Read the conversation and answer the questions given after the text. A: Can I help you? B: Yes, I’d like one of those things, oh, you know. A: No, I’m afraid, I don’t. B: You know the sort of thing I mean for holding papers together, I’ve forgotten what they are called. A: Ah, you mean paper clips, don’t you? B: No, not exactly. A sort of paper clip. Well, you know what I mean. A: Sorry, I don’t. B: They are little wire things you put in a machine and then press. A: Ah, you mean staples, I think? B: Yes, that’s right. I couldn’t remember what they were called. Thank you.
Questions: 1. Does the first speaker try to be helpful? What language shows he does? 2. What other language could the first speaker have used with the same meaning? 3. Do you think both speakers are polite and patient with each other? 22
III. Look trough the lines and: a) rearrange them to produce a natural dialogue: 1. Yes, please. Do you mind if I open the window? 2. No, I don’t think so. Would you like to look at my timetable? 3. No, I don’t think so. Shall I move my bag? 4. No, that’s quite all right. The train’s rather crowded, isn’t it? 5. Yes, I suppose so. By the way, it does stop at Brighton, doesn’t it? 6. Shall I look after your bag for you? 7. Yes, please. 8. Excuse me, is this seat taken? 9. No, that’s quite all right. I think, I’ll just go for a cup pf coffee. 10.Yes, it is, isn’t it? I suppose it’s because it’s Friday.
b) read the dialogue you have made up and answer the following questions: 1. Do the speakers know each other? 2. How did the speakers develop the conversation after answering? 3. Do the two speakers sound friendly and polite? If so, what language shows they are? 4. What sorts of developments did the first speaker use? 5. What other sorts of developments do you think might have been used in this situation?
IV. Make a natural response to the following remarks, remembering that you should both answer and develop the conversation: 1. You’ve been to London, haven’t you? 2. Have you seen the paper today? 3. You’re not English, are you? 4. You work a lot, don’t you? 5. You haven’t got minute to spare, have you?
V. Make short conversations in the following situations. 1. Ask the person sitting next to some personal questions politely. Try to sound interested when listening to her/him. 2. You meet a nice girl/boy outside your University. Strike up a conversation with her/him to find out whether: 1) she’s/he’s a student of your University; 2) she’s/he’s fond of history. 23
3. Your teacher has explained something, but you still don’t understand it very well. Politely ask for clarification. 4. It’s your first day in a new group and you don’t know where to sit. Ask one of the other students politely about the seating arrangements. 5. Some students come to your door to talk to you about a New-Year party. You are not well. You have a lot of work. Get rid of them politely. 6. Someone who has started work in your organization asks you what the boss is like. You don’t want to discuss him/her.
UNIT 4 Requests and Permission Read the text and do exercises given after it. How to Apologize Read the text and do exercises given after it. An apology is an expression of remorse or guilt over having said or done something that is acknowledged to be hurtful or damaging, and a request for forgiveness. However, it can be difficult to swallow our pride and say "I'm sorry." First of all you should determine what went wrong. Did you say something insensitive (whether your comment was accurate or not is irrelevant)? Did you fail to come through on a promise? Was the offense recent or long ago? You can't apologize effectively if you don't know what you are apologizing for. If you don't think you did anything wrong, then express regret or sadness for the feeling that someone is experiencing as a result of what you did. Presum-38
ing the effect was unintended, the basis of the apology often lies in not having foreseen how your actions would affect this person, realizing that the benefits of the action did not outweigh the unforeseen consequences, and wanting to compensate for your oversight. However, if the other person does think you did something wrong, just apologizing for the effect, and not acknowledging that you did something wrong, may mean the two of you can't reach understanding. Begin the apology by specifying your offenses and the feelings your actions may have caused. Be detailed about the incident so that they know exactly what you're apologizing for. Make it a point to avoid using the words "but" or "if". ("I am sorry, but..." means "I am not sorry") Also, do not say "I'm sorry you feel that way" or "I'm sorry if you were offended." Be sorry for what you did! "I'm sorry you feel that way" makes it seem like you are blaming the other person, and is not a real apology. Validate their feelings or discomfort by acknowledging your transgression's (potential) effects, while taking responsibility. Use direct, declarative statements. Look at the next few statements below. There is a huge difference between them. The first one acknowledges that you recognize you did something wrong, and takes ownership and responsibility for that action. The next few do not take responsibility. They don't say that you believe you did anything wrong. They can imply you aren't even aware of what you actually did wrong, and can seem like you're shifting blame to the other person for being easily offended: Good: "I'm sorry I was offensive." Bad: "I'm sorry if I was offensive." Bad: "I'm sorry you were offended." Bad: "I'm sorry for anything that was offensive [to you]." Good example: "Boss, I'm sorry I'm late again, I know my shift started 10 minutes ago. I hope this doesn't complicate your day." Good example: "Dear, I'm sorry I forgot your birthday - there's no excuse. I hope you don't feel neglected. Please, let me set this right." Bad example: "I'm sorry I broke your vase, but I was mad and I needed to take my anger out on something." 39
Make amends. Think about what caused you to make the offense. Is it because you're a little too laid back about being on time, or remembering important dates? Is it because you tend to react instantly to certain comments, without pausing to consider an alternative point of view? Is it because you are unhappy with your life, and you unknowingly take it out on others? Find the underlying problem, describe it to the person (as an explanation, not an excuse), and tell them what you intend to do to rectify that problem so that you can avoid this mistake in the future: "I snapped at you because I've been so stressed out with work lately, and it's selfish of me to take it out on you. Starting tomorrow, I'm going to cut down my hours to X per week. I really think it'll help me unwind, and help us spend more quality time together." "I've been distant and cold because I get paranoid that you're going to walk out on me because I don't have a job. But that's a terrible thing to do. Look, here's a list of things I'm going to do to find a job ASAP..." Be patent. If an apology is not accepted, thank them for hearing you out and leave the door open for if they wish to reconcile later. (E.g. "I understand you're still upset about it, but thanks for giving me the chance to apologize. If you ever change your mind, please give me a call.") Sometimes people want to forgive you, but they still need a little time to cool off. If you are lucky enough for your apology to be accepted: Avoid the temptation to throw in a few excuses at the end. Instead, have a transition planned out beforehand for what you can do to solidify the clean slate (e.g. "Let's go get some coffee and catch up. It'll be my treat. I miss knowing what you're up to."). Remember, just because someone accepts your apology doesn't mean they've fully forgiven you. It can take time, maybe a long time, before the injured party can completely let go and fully trust you again. There is little you can do to speed this process up, but there are endless ways to bog it down. If the person is truly important to you, it's worth it to give them the time and space they need to heal. Don't expect them to go right back to acting normally immediately. At the same time, don't let someone hang this over your head for the rest of your life. The same way you need to learn how to apologize, they need to learn how to forgive. 40
Stick to your word. A true apology entails a resolution, and you have to carry out your promise in order for the apology to be sincere and complete. Otherwise, your apologies will lose their meaning, and trust may disappear beyond the point of no return. Here are some expressions used for apologizing: I’m terribly/very/awfully sorry for being late/troubling you/disturbing you, etc. (slightly formal, emphatic). I’m very sorry, I’m afraid I’ve lost your book/overslept this morning, etc. (polite) Sorry for interrupting /coming so late/breaking your cup, etc. (informal) Sorry, (I didn’t mean to). Sorry, it was wrong of me. (direct, informal) I apologize for splitting tea on the table-cloth/taking your book home, etc. (formal) If you react to apologies unhappily, you can say like that: Oh, dear (that’s a pity). (quite polite) Oh, no! (informal, very strong) By means of the following expressions you can make an excuse: I had no intention of hurting your feelings, really. I didn’t mean to, really. (rather formal) It really wasn’t my fault, you see, I just couldn’t help it. (informal) Accepting apologies you can choose one of the following phrases: That’s quite all right. These things happen: it can’t be helped. I quite understand. (Please, don’t worry). That’s/It’s OK. Never mind. That/ It doesn’t matter. (informal)
DIALOGUES Note the expressions used in the dialogue and the progression of the conversation. The dialogue can be used as a model to have similar conversations. 1. - Oh, excuse me. - It’s all right.” 2. - Must be awfully sorry, old boy. - Oh, that’s OK.” 41
3. - Pardon me for calling you, up so late. -That’s all right.” 4. - I’m awfully sorry. I’ve broken your cup.” - Oh, don’t worry about that. - I do apologize. I’ll buy you a new one on Monday.” - No, I won’t hear of it. That’s out of the question.” 5. - Excuse me, could you tell me the correct time, please? - I beg your pardon. I didn’t catch what you said. - Sorry, so has mine. - Never mind, the bus is coming anyway. 6. - I’m terribly sorry, I was thrown off balance. - Oh, that’s all right. 7. Cynthia: Hi, Victor, do you think it’s possible for us to have a talk sometime today? Victor: I’d love to, but I’ve got a pretty tight schedule today. Cynthia: Oh, what have you got going on? Victor: Well, I’ve got to finish a report by ten. Then I have to drive to the to pick up a client of mine at eleven. After that, I’ll have a meeting with him over lunch. I guess I won’t have a break until two o’clock. Cynthia: Wow, that’s cutting it close. 8. Joe: Sir, did I do anything wrong? Officer: Yes, sir. You ran through the stop sign. May I see your driver license, please? Joe: Oh, I’m sorry, I didn’t see the stop sign at the corner. I didn’t mean it. Officer: That doesn’t justify your violation. May I see your license, please? Joe: Oh, sorry, sir, I don’t have it on me. Honestly, I forgot it back at the house. But I have the insurance policy with me. Here it is. Officer: Please wait here, sir. I’ll come back in a moment.
EXERCISES I. Discuss the following questions: 1. What does the language of apologies depend on? 2. Why do you have to avoid such words as “but” and “if” while apologizing? 3. Why is it important to make amends? 4. Which are the most polite ways of apologizing in English? 5. What language do the British use for making excuses in formal situations? 6. Is the language of apologies and excuses the same in both informal and formal situations?
II. Read the conversation and answer the questions given after the text. Smith: Late again, Tom Tom: I’m sorry, I’m late, Mr.Smith, but … Smith: Oh, don’t tell me your train was late. Tom: No, it wasn’t but … Smith: What’s your excuse this time then, Tom? Tom: The 8.00 train was cancelled so I had to wait for the next train. Smith: Cancelled, was it? Tom: Yes, just my luck. Smith: Well, that’s rather strange. Your colleague got here all right. He doesn’t seem to have any problem with the trains.
Questions: 1. Do you think Mr. Smith believes Tom’s excuse? Explain your answer. 2. What could you correct in this dialogue. 3. What different excuses could Tom have given if he’d traveled by car? III. Read the conversation and answer the questions given below. Wife: you didn’t ring me last night. You said you would. Husband: I’m sorry. Wife: And why were so rude to me at lunch? Husband: Was I? Sorry. I didn’t mean to be. Wife: And why are you yawning now? Are you bored? Husband: Forgive me, darling. I’m terribly tired. 43
Questions: 1. Do the speakers sound informal? If so, what language shows they do? 2. Does the husband talk apologetically? If so, what language shows he is? 3. What else could the husband have said with the same meaning?
IV. React to the questions, using one of the following expressions: That’s all right. Never mind. Forget it. Not at all. You needn’t apologize. You are not to blame. It’s my fault. No trouble at all. 1. Excuse my back. 2. Excuse my troubling you. 3. Excuse my being late. 4. Apologize to Henry for me. 5. I’m afraid I’m taking up too much of your time. 6. Excuse my disturbing you. 7. Sorry I’ve torn the magazine you gave me. 8. I must apologize for my behavior. I know I was rude. 9. I beg your pardon. Have I frightened you? 10. Don’t speak all together. One at a time, please.
V. Fill in the missing words. 1. Excuse my going first …. 2. … I meant well. 3. You needn’t apologize …. 4. … I didn’t let you know in time. 5. I’ve kept the book so long. You probably needed it. 6 “ … “ - “ Forget it.” 7. “ … “ - “ Never mind.” 8. “ … “ - “ No trouble at all.” 9. “ … “ - “ It was a slip of the pen.” 10. “ … “ - “I was a slip of the tongue.” 11. “I know you hate it when people interrupt you. I’m sorry I did.” - “ ….” 12. “I’ve got to apologize. I wrote it in pencil.” - “ ….”
VI. What would you say in the following situations? 1. You’ve borrowed a book of mine and lost it. 2. We were to meet at 7 p.m. You were fifteen minutes late. 3. I was walking down the street when you bumped into me. You didn’t see me. 4. You phoned me at night. I was trying to get to sleep after a long day and you disturbed me. 44
5. You and your friend discover that two men are sitting in the seats you’ve reserved in the lecture hall. 6. You’re 5 minutes late for the lecture on philosophy. It’s not the first time you’ve been late. 7. You’re a salesgirl. You’ve given a customer the wrong change. 8. You’ve hurt your friend’s feelings. 9. You’ve forgotten to telephone your friend. 10. You accidentally step on someone’s foot. 11. You were rude to a friend and want to apologize. 12. Your colleague is asking you for the loan of some money. You are not able to help her. You are a bit hard up at the moment.
VII. Make short conversations in the following situations: 1. You’re walking through the park when a small dog runs up to you and nips your ankle. The owner rushes up and apologizes profusely. Accept his/her apology and try to reassure him/her that you are not hurt. 2. You have to break a promise to go to a party because you have to complete an important work. Call your friend and apologize. Your friend accepts you apology. 3. At a party a few weeks ago you lost your temper with one of the guests. You’ve just met him/her again and are apologizing for your behaviour which you think was due to overtiredness. Your apology is generously accepted. 4. A letter sent to your neighbor was delivered to you and you opened it by mistake. Explain to him/her and apologize. 5. For the first time in your life you’ve arrived very late, and you see your boss is annoyed. How do you apologize?
UNIT 6 Making suggestions
Read the text and do exercises given after it. The British (and English people, more specifically) are often stereotyped as being very indirect in their style-that is, implying their meanings rather than saying exactly what they mean. (The stereotypical British use of irony is a classic example of this-- saying the opposite of what one means in order to implicate one's true meaning.) Americans, on the other hand, are often stereotyped as being very direct--brash or bossy, even. What happens when people from these cultures make suggestions? A speech act is understood as a suggestion when the following conditions apply: - The speaker (S) wants the hearer (H) to consider the action proposed. - S and H know that H is not obliged to carry out the action proposed by S. - S believes that the suggestion is in the interest of H. - S may or may not include herself/himself in the proposed action. Unlike other speech acts, suggestions might not have a strong potential for intercultural misunderstanding. That is, on the whole, the British and Americans do not differ in whether they prefer direct or indirect strategies for suggestions. Still, there are some differences in how the indirect strategies are phrased, with the British modifying their requests more (using 'upgraders' and 'downtoners') and Americans relying more on the 'head' of the suggestion--the unadorned sentence and its verb phrase in particular. One difference was in the modal verbs used in suggestions. British speakers use more modals of obligation (should, shall), while Americans tend toward(s) can, but Americans also use more Why don't you...? (Note: the fact that you say either is not counterevidence to this! Both cultures use all these strategies--but at different rates in the corpora.) 46
The British-preferred modals of obligation are considered by some linguists to be more direct. That is, they're communicating the directive meaning: 'I think you should do this'. Can on the other hand, is (arguably-- depending on how you like your modal verb analysis) ambiguous between a weak obligatory meaning and a capability meaning: i.e. 'you are able to do this and therefore you have the option to do it'. Note: Why don't you... might be perceived as bossy. It has no modal at all. It sounds like it's implying that the other person should have already thought of doing the suggested thing. The British indirectness tends to come from the use of modifiers, such as with understaters like a bit, to begin with, for the moment and downgraders like just, perhaps, at least, maybe, probably. With these markers missing, no wonder British people find the foreigners bossy. Americans are more likely to expect negotiation to follow suggestions, whereas the British are more likely to expect compliance. Could is supposed to be more natural in suggestions than can, and it's a bit more indirect. In case you want to know somebody better, the normal thing to do in English is to suggest doing something together. But the British don’t say it directly: they don’t, for example, say “Would you like to go to the cinema this evening?” without some preparation. A general question may be used as a form of such preparation: “Are you doing something special this evening?” “Are you going to do anything special?” “Will you be busy on Saturday?” The normal ways of replying to the questions like these are: 1. I don’t really know what I’m going to do. I haven’t really thought about it. 2. Well, well … I … (then you should give an excuse, but the British understand that you mean “I don’t want to come” because of the kind of excuse you give. In English a good excuse always involves someone else – either explicitly: “I’m afraid I’ve promised to drop in and see John this evening,” or implicitly: “ I’m afraid, I’ve got a lot of work to do before Monday” 47
3. You show the other person you would like to get to know them better but you have a good reason that you can’t accept the particular suggestion he has made. In order to make suggestions you can use the following phrases: “Let’s have a snack?” “Why don’t we go to a concert?” “Shall we listen to a new song?” “Why not see a new film?” “How does the idea of arranging a party appeal to you?” All the above expressions are considered to be informal. A tentative way of making a suggestion can be like this: “I suggest/suppose we/they/you might/could discuss it later.” If you ask for a suggestion politely you can say like that: “What would you like to do/say?” “What do you suggest we should do/write?” “Is there anything in particular you would like to do?” But if you speak to your friend you can do it more directly: “What do you fancy doing?” To express an alternative suggestion in a formal way, you may use one of the following phrases: “ Wouldn’t you rather stay at home?” “Wouldn’t it be better if you didn’t go outside.” “Might I suggest that we go to another restaurant for a change?” If you want to agree to a suggestion formally, you can do it in the following way: “That’s a good idea.” “That sounds like a good idea.” “That’s certainly a possibility/not a bad idea.” If you tend to be informal, then you can reply: “Yes, great/fine!” If you want to disagree with a suggestion the following formal phrases will be suitable: “That’s a good idea but I’d rather not. I’ve got a terrible headache.” “That’s not a bad idea but I’m afraid I haven’t got a minute to spare.” The informal expressions are: “I don’t think I can/could/would stay here for two days.” “I’d rather not discuss this matter at the moment.” 48
DIALOGUES Note the expressions used in the dialogue and the progression of the conversation. The dialogue can be used as a model to have similar conversations. 1. Robbie: It’s time since we’ve eaten. I’m quite hungry, what about you? Gayle: I’m a bit peckish, too, but it’s quite late and we don’t anything too heavy before we go to bed. Robbie: What do you suggest? Gayle: Well, a little light supper wouldn’t do us any harm! Robbie: Such as? Gayle: I could make a cheese and potato salad. Robbie: That’ll do nicely. 2. Donald: Let’s eat out, shall we? Debra: I’m broke. I’ve gone through my paycheck for the week already. Donald: Don’t worry about it. It’s my treat. Debra: Are you sure? You’re so generous! Donald: And nice, too. Debra: So, where are you taking me? Donald: Some place you’ve never been before. Donald’s Kitchen. 3. Kato: How about having dinner together? Mori: Fine. Kato: Shall we have Japanese or American food? Mori: Whatever you say! Kato: There is a good steak house around the corner. Mori: That’s a good idea. 49
4. Mary: What a beautiful place! Just like in a fairy tale – nice and quiet, with the grass so green. Oh, look, there’s a stream running under those big trees. Why not stop here for a short rest? Nick: OK. Some of us need a rest. Nina looks very tired. She’s been lagging behind us for the last kilometer or so. I think this place will do well. John: I don’t know how it is with you, but I’m as hungry as a hunter. Tom: I suggest we might have a bite and then go sunbathing. Nick: I don’t mind taking something hot inside. I’ve been having stomach-ache for an hour or so. Who’ll make the fire? John: I’ll make the fire. I can do it with one match. It won’t be difficult with all the dry sticks lying around. Mary: Who’s got the kettle? I’ll run down to the stream and bring some water. 5. Wayne: Why don’t we eat out? Lilia: I’m going to fix some pork chops. Wayne: Not when you are hungry. Lilia: Again? Weren’t you just complaining that it’s too expensive to eat out? Wayne: I’m afraid the meat is rotten. Lilia: That’s strange! I just bought it yesterday. Wayne: Well, I forgot to put it in the refrigerator. Lilia: Good for you! Now what should we eat? 6. Donald: Some place you’ve never been before. Donald’s Kitchen. Debra: You are sure? You are so generous! 50
Donald: And nice, too. Debra: I’m broke. I’ve gone through my paycheck for the week already. Donald: Let’s eat out, shall we? Debra: So, where are you taking me? Donald: Don’t worry about that. It’s my treat.
EXERCISES I. Read the conversation and answer the questions given below. Mrs. Crag: Would you like some tea? Mrs. Brown: I’d rather have coffee, if it’s no trouble. Mrs. Crag: Would you like it with milk and sugar? Mrs. Brown: Well, I’d rather have it black, if you don’t mind. Mrs. Crag: Not at all. How much sugar would you like? Mrs. Brown: I don’t take sugar, thank you.
Questions: 1. What terms are Mrs. Crag and Mrs. Brown on? 2. Do they speak formal or informal English? 3. What language does Mrs. Brown use to make alternative suggestions? 4. Do you think Mrs. Brown polite? If so, what language shows she is? 5. What other language might Mrs. Brown have used with the same meaning in the same situation?
II. Read the conversation and answer the questions given below. Peter: Excuse me for asking, are you doing anything special at the week- end? Mary: Well, I don’t really know what I’m going to do. As a matter of fact, I haven’t really thought about it. 51
Peter: Would you like to play tennis with us on Saturday? Mary: Yes, I would. What a good idea! Peter: Would you like to play singles or doubles? Mary: Let’s play singles and then the best boy can play the best girl. Would you like that? Peter: Yes, we would. Let’s do that.
Questions: 1. Are the speakers on equal terms? 2. What language shows that they know each other well? 3. Why do you think Peter didn’t make his suggestion directly? 4. What other language might he have used with the same meaning? 5. How might Mary have answered him instead of saying: “Well, I don’t really know …”? III. Read the conversation and answer the questions given below. Mary: Let’s have a party. John: What a good idea! When shall we have it? Mary: What about Saturday evening? John: Fine and where shall we have it? Mary: In your flat. John: Oh, you know what my roommate’s like. He won’t let us have a party there. Let’s ask someone else.
Questions: 1. Are the speakers on equal terms? 2. Do the speakers use formal or informal language? 3. What language does John use to turn down Mary’s suggestion? 4. How does this refusal sound? 5. What language do you think Mary should have used if she had spoken to a man she doesn’t know very well? 52
IV. React to the following suggestions: 1. Let’s drop in and see our friends tonight. 2. Why don’t we go to the theatre tonight? 3. Wouldn’t you rather stay at home? 4. Why not go for a walk? 5. Might I suggest that we go to another restaurant for a change? 6. Wouldn’t it be better if you didn’t go outside; it’s raining cats and dogs.
V. Fill in the missing words: 1. … we listen to a new disk? 2. Are you doing something … this evening? 3. Is there anything in … you would like to do? 4. What do you suggest we … do? 5. That’s a good idea but I’d … not. 6. How does the idea of going somewhere on Sunday … to you. 7. Why … we eat out tonight. 8. Would you … to play volley-ball? VI. Make short conversations in the following situations: 1. You want to go to a ballet. But your friend makes an alternative suggestion. She/he prefers the idea of seeing a play. You try to speak persuasively and your friend agrees to your suggestion. 2. After a long day at the University you and your friend decided to go for a meal at a café. Your friend shows indecision. Make your suggestion attractive. 3. You are going away for the weekend with a close friend. Call him/her to make suggestions about your weekend: where to go, how to get there, how long to stay, what to do, etc. Your friend is happy to spend the weekend with you. He/she agrees to all your suggestions enthusiastically. 4. A friend of yours is in the hospital. You visit him/her and see he/she is bored. Suggest something to occupy him/her. 5. Your friend has failed her/his exam and is looking rather depressed. Give her/him your suggestions.
UNIT 7 How to give people advice
“The only thing to do with good advice is pass it on. It is never any use to anyone” Oscar Wilde
Read the text and do exercises given below. First of all, make sure that the person who is talking to you is actually soliciting advice. He or she may just want you to listen and be a good friend, seeking instead understanding, empathy, and compassion. Don’t assume that everyone wants advice. You may have some insight into the problem(s), but you really need to listen attentively to a person first for a very long time to understand the situation if, and only if, your friend actually asks for advice should you then furnish it. It is a great honor to be asked for advice, but it is also a big responsibility. Good advice can help people make sound decisions and find the right path in life, while bad advice can have disastrous consequences. Fortunately, with a little forethought you can weed out the good from the bad. There are some rules which the British follow in giving advice. The first: always listen carefully to the person who wants advice, and learn as much as possible about this situation. If you need clarification, ask questions. Being an active listener will not only help you give good advice, it will also increase the chances that the person will take your advice. The second: put yourself in the advisee’s shoes, i.e. try to imagine yourself in the other person’s situation. If you’ve been in a similar situation, think about what you learned, but don’t rely solely on your experiences to give advice for the unique circumstances that the other person is facing. The third: think about the consequences of taking or not taking your advice. If there’s no significant difference between the results of those two scenarios, your advice might not be bad, but it’s not useful either. If you can envision the path you suggest leading to a worse result than an alternative path would, your advice probably is bad. The fourth: empathize. Many matters require sensitivity and thoughtfulness. If you really try to put yourself in 54
the other person’s shoes (as suggested above) empathy will probably develop naturally. Even so, be very careful about how you word your advice and be sensitive to the other person’s feelings and emotional state. If the British give advice they do it in an apologetic and polite manner. The degree of politeness depends on the situation they are in. When people discuss something or argue they are usually formal and polite. If the know each other very well they are often informal and less polite. When giving advice, it is important to avoid forms such as “You must …”. The advice “I’d recommend you to work less” is more formal and it is generally not used among friends. In formal situations the British would say: “Personally, I would advise you to … “. “Perhaps it would be a good idea to go out.” “If I were you I would not leave car doors unlocked.” “I think you’d better not go to this party.” “I advise you to study for a degree in foreign languages.” “You may not agree with me, but it might be a good idea if you do it beforehand.” In the informal situation the British people would say: “You ought to help him.” “I suggest/I think you should go to bed earlier.” “If I were you I’d call her back.” “Why don’t you accept this invitation?” “Don’t forget to shut the window”. If you need some advice, you can use the following forms: “What do you suggest I should do?” “Where/When do you suggest I should go/have a holiday, etc.?” “Could you give me some advice about sports/learning foreign languages, etc.?” “I was wondering if you could (possibly) give me some advice about...?” (formal) If you are in friendly relations with somebody, you can ask for an advice in such a way: “What would you do in my position/if you were me?” If you want to accept advice, you can use the following phrases: “That sounds/seems like a good idea/advice, thank you.”(possible in all situations) “Well, that’s certainly a possibility.”(slightly tentative) “Right/Yes, I’ll do/try that. Thanks.” “That’s a good idea, thanks. Yes, I think I’ll try that.” (direct, informal). One of the variants of rejecting advice is: “That’s not a good idea, I’m afraid. I’ve already tried that.” 55
DIALOGUES
Note the expressions used in the dialogue and the progression of the conversation. The dialogue can be used as a model to have similar conversations. 1. Jim: Is your restaurant licensed to serve hard drinks? Waiter: Certainly, sir. And we have a wide choice of them too. At present there isn’t a better restaurant than this one. Jim: Very well. I’d like to have dinner. What would you recommend for the first course? Waiter: I think there is nothing like chicken soup which is, incidentally, our cook’s favorite job. Jim: Indeed? And choosing a grill, what will you suggest? Waiter: Oh, sir: if you order roasted mutton, you make a fine meal. And what about the sweet, sir? Jim: I’ll go without it. Just a glass of orange juice, and that’s all. Waiter: Well … you asked me about strong drinks. What will you have, sir? Jim: Nothing whatever. It was a mere curiosity
2. Danny: I’m thinking of applying for a manager’s job. Victor: Well, you’ve got plenty of experience, so you should have a good chance. Danny: I’m going to work on my resume tonight after work. Victor: I’d wait until you get the job description if I were you. Danny: Why do you say that? Victor: Well, then you’ll be able to tailor your resume to fit the job.
3. Ann: Is there anything I can do? I’d like to help in some way. Kate: I can’t think of anything at the moment. Ann: Well, maybe I could run errands or something. Kate: You could if I needed something. 56
Ann: I feel so useless just hanging around with nothing to do. Kate: In a couple of days there’ll be too much to do. Then you’ll want to be back in these lazy days. Ann: I guess I’m just a workaholic. I never was very good at doing nothing. Kate: Maybe you should learn how to relax.
4. Earnest: I would really like to study computing, but I can’t afford the time or money for a course. Gayle: I suppose you’re talking about a full-time course, but that’s not the only option you know. Earnest: Well what else could I do? Gayle: You could do it by distance learning. My brother’s just completed a distance learning course in HR management. Earnest: Was he satisfied with it? Was it any good? Gayle: Yes, he was, although he said it was tough to come home tired after a day’s work and then to do two or three hours of study before going to bed.
5. Terri: Derrick, don’t you think you should take a vocation? Even one or two days would be fine. Derrick: There’s no way. There’s too much work. Terri: But you look so exhausted. You need a break. Derrick: I know. My chances would be better if they would hire more people. Terri: They won’t hire more people. Derrick: No. They always want to keep the cost down. I am really overwhelmed with a heavy workload. Terri: Maybe you should talk to the manager. Derrick: Yes. I’m going to bring this up in tomorrow’s meeting.
6. Terri: How are things going with you and your roommate? John: Not very well. We are supposed to share the groceries, but I end up feeding him three times a day. My grocery bill is huge, you know. I really can’t afford it any longer. 57
Terri: I know how you feel. I used to have a roommate like that. He never offered to reimburse me for anything. John: I’m really fed up with this, but I just don’t know how to tell him that he should come up with half the grocery bill, because sometimes he treats me to a meal in a restaurant. Terri: Well, honesty is the best policy. May be you just should have a heart- to- heart, friend-to-friend talk with him. If he refuses to mend his ways, then ask to move out. You can’t let him wear out his welcome.
7. Tina: I wouldn’t mention that to Gloria if I were you. Vaughan: Why not? She seems a very amiable person. Tina: No doubt she is, but she’s not the most discreet person in the world. Vaughan: Aren’t you being a bit unfair? Tina: No, not at all. I know from experience that she‘s a real tattletale. Vaughan: Well, if that’s the case, I’ll take your advice.
8. A: May help you with some apple-pie? B: Quite a small piece, please. It looks very appetizing. A: I’d advise you to leave some place for the pudding. It’s always delicious with them here. B: But I thought there would be nothing coming yet. And I could hardly manage it. Can we cancel the order?
EXERCISES I. Read the conversation and answer the questions given below. Peter: You look a bit worried, Brian. Is anything wrong? Brian: No, not really. Peter: Are you sure? You don’t seem yourself today somehow. Brian: Well … I’ve got to find a new flat somewhere. They are going to pull down the building where I’m living at the moment. Peter: Well, is that such a problem? Brian: Yes, it is, when you’ve only got a week to do it in. Peter: A week? That seems like rather short notice. 58
Brian: Oh, I’ve known about it for ages, but I haven’t done anything about it until now. Peter: Oh, I see. Well, Brian, if I were you I’d start looking through the papers straight away. Brian: I have … every day for the last week. Peter: Hmm. I see your problem. Perhaps it would be a good idea to put an advert in the paper – you know – saying you are looking for a flat. Brian: Yes, that sounds like a good idea, thanks. But I suppose, it all takes time, doesn’t it? Peter: Hey! Wait a minute! And why don’t you ask your cousin, he’s an estate agent. I think you should go round and see him after work. Brian: Well, that sounds like a marvelous idea, I must say. I clean forgot about him. Peter: If I were you I’d go round right away. Brian: That’s certainly a possibility. I think I’ll try that. Peter: OK. Best of luck to you. Bye. Brian: Bye. See you tomorrow, Pete.
Questions: 1. What terms are the speakers on? 2. Is Brian’s problem really serious? Give your reasons. 3. What advice does Peter give Brian? 4. Is Peter polite to Brian? If so, what language shows he is? 5. Which piece of Peter’s advice does Brian take? 6. What advice would you have given if you were Peter? II. Give advice to the people. Begin with: “You/He/She’d better ….” Example: A: They say it’s getting cold outside. B: You’d better put your warm coat on.
1. I’m homesick. 2. My pen’s broken. 3. I’m a bit depressed after the exams. 4. My mother comes home very tired. 5. I’m going on holiday next week. 6. A friend of mine finds a very difficult language. 7. I’m beginning to put on weight. 8. I’ll have to get down to some serious work again pretty soon. 9. My brother never stops swatting. 10. I can’t help worrying about my mother. She’s not well. 59
III. Make the following into mini-dialogues about advice. Your friend is going for an interview. Example: A. what to do, sleep at nights? B. Why not, take a walk, every evening. A: What should I do to sleep at nights? B: Why don’t you take a walk every evening? 1. A. can, dive, some advice, what to wear? B. well, suggest, wear a suit. 2. A. what, you, say, if, ask, advice? B. well, personally, advise, to be careful. 3. A. I, wondering, give, me, advice, what to wear? B. well, be, good, idea, wore, a suit. 4. What, wear, you, me? B. well, the best thing, wear, a suit. 5. what, say, you, in my position? B. well, I, you, wouldn’t, talk about, your last job.
IV. In the following situations restrain people from doing these things. 1. Your friend tells you she is planning to invite two other people to join you for the evening, but you are not very keen on the idea. 2. Your friend loves eating cream cakes, and she is putting on weight. 3. Your friend keeps asking you to lend him money, and you want him to stop doing it. 4. Your friend wants to change the television program from movie to sport and you don’t want him to. 5. You are trying to write a report, and your friend interrupts you every few minutes. 6. Someone is writing notes in a book borrowed from the library.
V. Accept or reject advice in the following situations: 1. Your friend advises you to talk to your mother about your financial problems. You agree. 2. Your teacher advises you to go to the lecture tonight. You cannot. 3. After an argument your friend advises you to try to control your temper. You accept the advice. 4. Your boyfriend has invited you to make a trip with him. You cannot make a decision and ask your mother for advice. 5. You’ve got the problem of taking the exam in phraseology. Your friend gives you two pieces of advice. You accept one of them and reject the other one. 60
VI. Fill in the missing words. 1. I … recommend you to spend more time outdoors. 2. If I … you I would never behave like that. 3. I suggest you … do your best to complete your project in time. 4. You … better … this work in advance. 5. … you give me some advice … travelling by air. 6. Why … you accept the invitation to the party? 7. I was wondering if you … give me an advice? 8. That’s not a good idea, ….
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